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Dear Abby: My wife of 37 years has an exciting career she loves. Unfortunately, her job is 80 miles away from home. We own a condo in her work city. So recently, when she was complaining about the commute, I suggested she stay there for a week, then telecommute from home for a week, etc. She loves the new schedule.

I, on the other hand, am kicking myself! I have recently started working again at 62, and I’m lonely. It’s depressing to come home to an empty house every other week, but I’m the one who suggested it. Her job could last another two to five years. We have five grandchildren who live close by, so moving to her location isn’t an option. What do I do about this?

– Missing Her in Florida

Dear Missing Her: You tell your wife that although you suggested she stay in the condo for a week at a time, it isn’t working for you, and you’re miserable without her. Or, you accept that a 160-mile daily commute may have become too much for her and fill your lonely hours by getting a hobby and baby-sitting some of those grandchildren whose parents might like some adult time together. But the one thing you shouldn’t do is sit and silently brood because it isn’t healthy.

No thanks from niece

Dear Abby: My niece had a bridal shower last March. When thank-you notes didn’t arrive for the gifts she had been given, she said they were “lost in the mail” and she would thank everyone in her wedding thank-yous. She was married last May and hasn’t sent out thank-you notes for her wedding gifts, either. The gifts my parents and I gave her were expensive, and I am upset about it.Should I confront her?

Disgusted in Middleburg Heights, Ohio