Dear Abby: I am a divorced woman with three children ages 24, 22 and 16. I live on my own with my girls. I have been dating a man, “Reed,” for three years. We are very much in love and have been working to blend our families. (He has two children.)
We have decided to move in together at the end of October. My lease will be up then, and Reed has sold his condo. We will be moving into the house he shared with the ex-wife while they were married. I’m comfortable with the move, and our kids are very excited about it. Everything is fine except for one thing: His ex-wife has not yet found a new home to move into.
He’s now suggesting that we move in and live with his ex-wife until she finds a new place. Reed believes this will be very short-term – a month or so. The house is big enough for all of us. His ex-wife and I are friendly, so that’s not an issue either. But I’m not comfortable with this plan. Am I being irrational? Should I just act like a grown-up and make the move?
– Second Thoughts in Massachusetts
Dear Second Thoughts: You are neither immature nor irrational. You are thinking ahead. What if Reed’s ex CAN’T find a place that suits her in a month or so? Do you really want to share your dwelling with the “Ghost of Marriage Past”? If I were you, I’d talk to my landlord and ask if you can work out a month-to-month extension of your lease. If that’s agreeable, Reed can move in with YOU for the “short term.” I’m sure you’d both be happier.
Stuck on his teeth
Dear Abby: I met this guy recently and I really like his teeth. They’re just so perfect. The thing is, I’ve never actually paid that much attention to anyone else’s teeth. So does this count as a fetish or not?
– Am I Weird?
Dear Am I: No. If the only thing that attracted you about EVERY man you met was his teeth, you might have a fetish. But because it’s only his choppers that turn you on, I wouldn’t call that a fetish.