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Dear Abby: What can I do about a child I see in an automobile who is hanging out the window when she passes my house? The child is about 4.

Today when I saw the little girl, the only parts of her in the car were her lower legs and feet. Her mother, father and grandmother allow her to do this. It scares me because when I was a child, I fell out of a moving car, and I still have scars on my arms because of it.

I am not close to these neighbors, so can you help me with some advice?

– Scared For Her in Florida

Dear Scared For Her: Seat belt laws have been enacted to protect children from this kind of ignorance or negligence. Children (and adults) who fall from moving vehicles can die of their injuries, or be crippled for life.

You should report your concerns to the police to ensure the little girl’s safety. The next time you see her hanging out the car window, immediately call 911. The dispatcher will determine which agency should be notified.

Stepdad should help with gift

Dear Abby: My ex-wife, “Kristy,” and I have been divorced for five years and she has since remarried. We have a 15-year-old daughter, “Taryn.”

When it’s Kristy’s birthday, Mother’s Day, etc., Taryn looks to me to help out with gifts for her mother. I have asked my daughter if she talks to her stepfather about this, and she says no.

I feel it isn’t my duty to do this. It should be the current husband who is assigned this task. I want Taryn to be happy giving her mother a gift, but I am not comfortable with this. Am I thinking right? If so, what should I say?

– Uncertain in Kentucky

Dear Uncertain: Explain this to your daughter just as you have written it to me. Taryn isn’t a little girl. I presume she has chores to do and earns an allowance. If she wants to give her mother a gift or a card, she should pay for it. But if she wants to spend more money for it than she has, she should ask her stepdad to chip in.