Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for three years. I trust him with my whole heart. He is the sweetest man I know. Lately, I have been wanting to know more about his brother. My husband hasn’t said much about him other than he was murdered in prison about 10 years ago. I’m not saying that he and his family are lying, but I did some research on the Web and came across multiple websites about my husband’s brother. Yes, he was in prison, but I’m not sure he was actually murdered there.
I want to talk to my husband and find out what really happened and try to get to know his brother, but I’m scared he will get angry and even shut me out. Please give me some advice on what to do. I just want some straight answers.
– In the Dark in Ohio
Dear In the Dark: There is always a risk when someone goes poking around the family closet and starts rattling the skeletons. I suggest you be frank with your husband. Tell him you were curious about his brother, went on the Internet, found some surprising information and would like some honest answers. If you trust him with your whole heart, then his response will tell you all you need to know.
Tirade at dinner table
Dear Abby: My husband goes into a tirade if anyone has a taste of food or a bread roll before a meal is properly served. He goes off on everyone, even a child who has had to wait because the meal is late or they just love light rolls. We have great respect for your answers. He threatened to write you, so I called his bluff. What do you think?
– Losing My Appetite in Virginia
Dear Losing: I think your husband appears to be excessively controlling. For him to expect hungry people to sit at a table with food and not partake of it is unrealistic, unless it’s a formal dinner party. Children should be taught table manners, but to force a hungry child to sit at a table with bread on it for fear of a tirade is abusive. People sometimes overreact the way your husband does because they have low blood sugar. Could this be his problem?