Dear Abby: I’m 24 and a college graduate. My boyfriend, “Jordan,” and I have been together for a year, and we would like to get married. However, my parents are against the idea. They love Jordan, but they think marriage is stupid because, in 2013, “WHO is getting married?”
I think this is totally ridiculous, but I don’t know what to do. I want to be married, and I would love my parents’ approval, but it’s hard when they call me stupid for wanting to take that step just because their marriage didn’t work out. I love Jordan, and I love my parents. Should I have to choose between the two?
– Totally Torn
Dear Totally Torn: You do not have to choose between your parents and being married. At 24, you are an adult and mature enough to make your own decision about the importance of the institution.
As to the question of “who is getting married” these days, one answer is that people with college degrees are marrying at a greater rate than those with only a high school education – and their unions are lasting longer.
I’m sorry your parents’ marriage didn’t work out, but you would be foolish to let their cynical opinion of this kind of commitment taint your perspective. I hope you and Jordan enjoy many happy and fulfilling years together.
Thanked for the wrong gift
Dear Abby: Twice in the past month I have received thank-you notes for gifts I had given, but the wrong gift was mentioned. I understand how something like that could happen, but I’m not sure what to do about it. Should I just keep quiet about it, or say something to the person?
– Picking Out Presents in Pa.
Dear Picking Out Presents: I see nothing to be gained by not alerting the person to the mistake. If you were thanked for the wrong gift, so was another giver. If I had mixed up the gift cards, I would want to know. Wouldn’t you?