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Published:September 23, 2011, 12:00 AM

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Updated: September 23, 2011, 7:50 AM

Of course, authorities should prosecute the kids who bullied Jamey Rodemeyer to death. If there were — as reported — a few of them whose abuse was so relentless, who would not stop until this kid’s spirit was broken, then, by all means, the full weight of the law should land on their heads.

If nothing else, and it may indeed accomplish nothing else, it would send a message to every student, to every parent, to every equivocating teacher or principal, that what happened to this kid was wrong — and that the law and this society are not going to look the other way. It is a message that, apparently, still needs to be delivered, understood and absorbed.

Jamey Rodemeyer killed himself Sunday. He was a 14-year-old freshman at Williamsville North High School. Jamey — who identified himself as bisexual — had reportedly been bullied for years about his sexual orientation.

Amherst police are investigating reports that a few kids had targeted Jamey for years. It’s nice to see the authorities take seriously the concept that words — and social media sites — can be used as weapons of emotional destruction. The list of death-by-suicide teens is too long to believe otherwise.

Cyberbullying, taunting and other forms of emotional assault are not as overtly harmful as a punch in the face. But anyone who believes that “sticks and stones may break my bones/But names will never hurt me” has not seen the numbers on teen suicide, particularly among homosexuals. Thirty percent of teens who kill themselves are gay, and — given those families who keep it a secret — the real number is undoubtedly higher.

Judging from reports, the abuse that drove Jamey to suicide fits the state’s cyberbullying law. It’s a crime when someone “repeatedly commits acts which alarm or seriously annoy such other person and which serve no legitimate purpose. . . . [including] by mechanical or electronic means.”

Anyone looking for the law to take its pound of flesh for Jamey’s death will not be satisfied. First offenders likely would not go to jail, particularly if they are minors. But arrest and prosecution would at least send the message that society takes this seriously.

Jamey is the latest in a line of gay teens who saw suicide as the only exit from a barrage of verbal-and cyberassaults. There are plenty of precedents for prosecution.

Six teenagers were charged with harassment and civil rights violations after 15-year-old Phoebe Prince hanged herself last year following months of bullying at her Massachusetts high school. They pleaded guilty to lesser charges. The roommate of Rutgers student Tyler Clementi was prosecuted after the 18- year-old leapt to his death off a bridge. The roommate streamed on the Internet a covertly recorded webcast of Clementi’s sexual encounter with another man.

“If [Jamey] was repeatedly set upon verbally, with no other purpose than to harass and humiliate, . . . then I have no problem prosecuting this,” Erie County District Attorney Frank Sedita told me.

Cops obviously can’t slap cuffs on everyone who insults someone. If that were the case, the county would need an airplane hangar to hold all the perpetrators. The First Amendment protects free speech, even when it is insulting or hurtful. And no law can match the outrage people feel when the life of a sweet, vulnerable teen becomes unbearable because kids torment him as if they were pulling the wings off a fly.

But the harassment that drove this teenager to take his life may well have been a crime. Prosecution and punishment will not bring him back. But if it changes even one bully’s mind, then Jamey Rodemeyer did not die in vain.

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I wish the young boys arguing with each other and resorting to name-calling on these articles about bullying would settle down and try to act like mature adults while posting comments.

MELANIE ABCZYNSKI, BROKEN ARROW, OK on Wed Sep 28, 2011 at 10:31 AM

Mark....show them.

MICHAEL SANTORO, BUFFALO, NY on Wed Sep 28, 2011 at 06:52 AM

Good grief! I have half a mind to go through all these comments and flag them. This is a comment section on an editorial about bullying! It is in very poor taste to resort to insults and abusive language here.

Persistent bullying is not caused by religion, or the lack of religion. It is not caused by the internet, video games, or cell phones. Without adult supervision, certain children will bully other children. These kids may be able to use certain social prejudices and new types of media to attack their victims, but if that weren't true they would find other things to say and different ways to say them.

I was bullied horribly as a little girl, and I considered suicide many times. I was not gay and it wouldn't have mattered if I was. I was different and an easy target, and that is exactly what bullies look for. This situation persisted for years simply because adults who were aware of it refused to take action against the perpetrators. So long as they were able to think of the situation as "bullying" -- not harassment or assault -- these adults were able to avoid taking any responsibility. They didn't need to enforce discipline. They could simply send me to counselling and pretend they had done their job.

I don't know if the numbers of suicides like Jamey's are increasing, or if it is merely the awareness and coverage of them that is growing. I just hope that, instead of drafting new laws and making other symbolic gestures, we instead work to change the common mindset that views "bullying" as normal, as fundamentally different from similar crimes committed against adults. Otherwise, all the laws we could write would not change a thing.

LINDA MCCARTHY, BUFFALO, NY on Wed Sep 28, 2011 at 06:42 AM

Go ahead commander braindamage. Get the last word in. No one listens to you anyway. You're the Buffnews.com clown. Bye Nancy!!!

MARK FAHEY, LANCASTER, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 11:49 PM

You're an ugly little punk, no need to advertise it. I can't imagine your poor wife having to suffer you. My kids would slap you silly if I showed them this. How does my wife stand me? Its called love. You wouldn't know anything about it. As for the coward comment, I can see you're still reeling from the puss out earlier this summer. Can't blame you there. I'd be down on myself if I was that big a.....you know. You do, doncha!!!!

MARK FAHEY, LANCASTER, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 11:43 PM

How Gail puts up with it is beyond me.

MICHAEL SANTORO, BUFFALO, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 11:04 PM

Mark, seriously....your kids hate you...and if they don't their spouses do....even if it's secretly. Do yourself a favor and watch their expressions real close when you go into one of these tirades. You are a simpleton and coward and I'm sure people try their hardest to avoid you.

MICHAEL SANTORO, BUFFALO, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Scamtoro....yes, I believe thenold testament. Unfortunately, somw(you in particualr) are to dense to understand that it was aimed toward an audience who didn'y even know the world was round. The Adam and Eve story was to show how arrogance is destructive to humans, and other taboo things, like the apple(maybe representing, oh, I don't know, the forbidden fruit of homosexuality, fornication, etc) were destructive to humans. The parting of the Sea has been proven scientifically, and has happened from time to time over the last 4 millenia(I won't go into detail, it has to do with certain wind factors). The book would have been thrown away if it explained how the Earth and stars were held in balance, the entirety of matter was made of atoms, quarks, etc. This subtlty is lost on dull minds(and poisoned ones) You can't "rip the book in half" it would make no sense without the beginning. The entire world flooded? Yes. Their part of it was the entire world at that time. Also proven by science. In the 80's a team of researchers on Mt Ararat found fossilized remains of both fresh water and salt water fish just feet apart from one another corbon date within a short time. UP ON THE MOUNTAIN!!!! You're too dense to try to explain this to. You'll find the truth on death, unfortunately for you, it will be too late. I hope not. I hope you come to your senses before that, but you seem to be in the powerful grip of evil spirits. I know you don't believe in that. Thats their clever way. Hide in plain sight, so to speak. You've been fooled, and think the others wrong. THINK!!

MARK FAHEY, LANCASTER, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 03:56 PM

Scamtoro.......Maybe its the people like YOU who are trying to mainstream perverse behaviour who laid the foundation for this bullying. You see, the kids who naturally are opposed to abnormal sexual behaviour as instilled by nature are most likely offended by it and while constantly being bombarded with the wrong message from the pro-gay adults are just lashing out at this attack on their senses. Its those like YOU who created this atmosphere. YOU are guilty. PS worry about how your kids look at you. Just because you are a dysfunctional family castoff doesn't mean its that widespread to others. I taught my kids right from wrong, not wrong is right. Your kids will most likely rebel against the hatred you project, or join you in it, becoming a nuisance like you are. Like I said, What if your newborn gets "born again"? Will you pester and cajole? Probably. Because you're a jerk. What if your kids are actually smart, and say"No dad, you're wrong about this"? Or will you use mindcontrol tactics? As low as you are, I'd put nothing past you. Attack, attack, attack!! You try to bully. You're way too weak for it. A punk! Nothing more. PSS. What if your kids are the bullies? Did that ever occur to you? You can't run their lives. They will be who they are. They may be the bullies, just like daddy tries to be. They may do it to make you proud. PSSS You're a punk. Did I tell you that?

MARK FAHEY, LANCASTER, NY on Tue Sep 27, 2011 at 03:39 PM

Jack, The angle I'm coming from is the subscribed belief and the cherry picking. If you give a concept or idea wings by supporting it than you must take responiblity for the negative aspects it creates. I'm looking for a bit of responsiblity. The same way the USA demanded more from the Islamic temples in the way of public condemnation, I expect the same from the religious when it comes to politicing gay rights and freedoms by way of a belief system. I site the current GOP presidential candidates as well as our state congressmen for making it a polarizing debate.

MICHAEL SANTORO, BUFFALO, NY on Mon Sep 26, 2011 at 12:40 PM

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