Dear Abby: My husband has moved our motor home into our driveway and lets our 8-year-old grandson and the neighborhood boys play inside without supervision. I am furious about it because they can – and often do – mess up a whole lot of stuff, and worse, it leaves us open for a lawsuit if anyone gets hurt!
I can’t convince him that it’s not OK to let the boys play inside. Actually, I think he knows it, but our grandson only has to whine or cry and my husband folds.
Can you please help me get through to him?
– Concerned Grandma in Texas
Dear Concerned Grandma: I probably can’t do much better than you, but I’m willing to bet that your family lawyer and your insurance agent can. Notify them about what’s going on, and let them tell your husband what the consequences will be if anything unforeseen should happen.
Let boss show you the ropes
Dear Abby: I have started working at a cafe. My best friend works there, and she helped me get the job. I work with her often, and when I ask questions, she keeps doing stuff for me and won’t let me learn. I have to learn by doing.
When I go home, I feel like I’m not good at it, and I start missing my co-workers from my old job. I miss my old work because we had so much fun and always goofed around. I don’t know how to enjoy my new job, and I get all quiet around my friend because she obviously realizes when I’m not doing something right. How do I keep up a good attitude or tell her she’s driving me crazy?
– Sad Girl in Utah
Dear Sad Girl: A way to change your attitude would be to stop asking your friend to coach you. People have different learning styles. Obviously, yours is not the same as your friend’s.
The person who should be teaching you is your boss. Because new routines take practice to master, have him or her show you the ropes so you can mirror what that person is doing.
Never too old to play catch
Dear Abby: I’m 59 years old and still take my baseball mitt with me when I go to games in hopes of catching a ball. At what age should a guy stop doing it? (We usually sit in the lower level near the front.)
– Minnesota Twins Fan
Dear Twins Fan: Stop taking it when you have grown so aged and feeble that when the ball comes your way, you can no longer fend off the younger fans who are also diving for it. And not one moment sooner.
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