Dear Abby: I’m a 21-year-old nursing student in college. I’m a “people person” and everyone says I’m easy to talk to. According to my friends, I am pretty, smart, funny, etc., but I have never had a boyfriend.
I was extremely sick throughout high school and during my early college years, and spent a lot of time in and out of the hospital. I missed not only a lot of schooling, but also learning some of the basic social skills most people my age have mastered when it comes to dating. It has been only during the last couple of years that I have been healthy enough to even consider dating, and now I have no clue what to do.
I am naturally friendly and sometimes guys I’m NOT interested in think I’m flirting with them. However, when I try to flirt with a guy, it never works. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, and my friends all give me different advice. Do you have any tips for me, Dear Abby, on how to let a guy know I’m interested?
– Losing the Dating Game in Florida
Dear Losing: Yes. Be your outgoing, friendly self with everyone. Don’t be afraid to smile and make eye contact. That’s the way you let others know you’re interested. The problem with “trying” to flirt is that it can come across as awkward and aggressive, which can either bring you the wrong kind of attention or scare a man off.
Puzzled about friend’s death
Dear Abby: I’m 13 and in junior high school. When we all came back after a break we were greeted with the news that one of the students in our class had died. We were only told that the death was “ruled an accident,” but nothing else. Is it wrong to speculate what happened to our classmate?
– Curious in the Northwest
Dear Curious: When people are given no information, it is normal for them to wonder. After the death of your classmate, I’m surprised grief counseling wasn’t offered to help you and your fellow students deal with the loss, because that is what should have happened.