Dear Abby: I’m married to the love of my life. Our 25th anniversary will be here soon. My issue is, my husband has a beard I cannot stand. It’s long and unkempt, and makes him look 10 years older than he is. It has become a real issue between us.
He keeps telling me about women and co-workers who tell him what a “nice full beard” he has. I don’t care what these women think. I am his wife, and I think he should shave it or at least trim it for me.
I am withholding sex (which is very important to him) until he trims it and no longer make eye contact with him because I can’t stand looking at him. What should I do? I love him more than anyone else in the world does. Shouldn’t he respect my wishes?
– In a Hairy Situation in Duluth
Dear Hairy Situation: If you want to make your marriage last 26 years, please stop using sex as a weapon to manipulate your husband.
That said, your opinion should supersede that of the women he sees at work. A beard can be flattering if it is kept clean and trimmed. If it’s not, a man can look like Howard Hughes in his latter days, which is truly unfortunate.
Because you are unable to get your message across, enlist the help of your husband’s barber. Perhaps he can get through to him.
Tired of looking at ex
Dear Abby: I’ve been divorced for nearly two years, and my ex and I have moved on. My question is about our family portraits. I don’t want to throw them away because of my kids, but I don’t really want them around my house either. What should I do?
– Not Looking Back in Austin
Dear Not Looking Back: Put them in an album, or display them in your children’s bedrooms if they wish. Although the marriage is over, your ex is still their father and, hopefully, he will always be a part of their lives.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.