Dear Abby: I’m in my early 20s, happily married and financially secure. My husband and I have been discussing having children. My problem is my sister has been trying to start a family for three years, to no avail because she has infertility issues.
These issues run in our family, and there is a 75 percent chance that I will have the same problem. Should I talk to my sister about my trying to get pregnant, or wait until I’m pregnant and break the news to her then? Any thoughts?
– Don’t Want To Hurt Her
Dear Don’t Want To Hurt Her: “Springing” news that you are pregnant would be more of a jolt to her than hearing that you’re trying. I see no reason to keep this a secret from your sister. Because problems conceiving run in your family, talking about it might be helpful to both of you. If you do become pregnant, she may want to consult your doctor. If it doesn’t happen, the two of you can emotionally support each other.
Dating world has changed
Dear Abby: After 20 years of marriage, I am now again in the dating world – and wow, have things ever changed! What happened to the days when men would open doors, kiss your cheek, or try to impress you by sending flowers, complimenting you and chasing you to go out with them? Nowadays, the guys expect me to impress them, call them first, etc.
What are your thoughts on this? I have been on numerous dates, and out of all of them only one man acted like an old-school gentleman. Unfortunately, he was only 30. I’m in my mid-40s.
I’m not super-rich, but I have a stable job, good benefits and two well-behaved boys. What’s wrong with me?
– New To The Dating World
Dear New: Nothing is “wrong” with you. In fact, if men still chased you, complimented you and didn’t expect to drag you to bed in the late ’80s and early ’90s, you were lucky! Old-fashioned romance started dying out in the late 1960s and early ’70s. As women became more aggressive, men became more passive.
If you like the way the 30-year-old man treats you, please don’t let the age difference get in the way. Grab him, because his kind is now a rarity.
Teacher can’t spell
Dear Abby: My son’s fourth-grade teacher can’t spell. I have noticed at least a half-dozen errors not only in the handwritten notes she sends home, but also in assignment work! How should I handle this?
– Anonymous in Pittsburgh
Dear Anonymous: Save the notes and assignment work with the misspellings and share them with the school principal. And if the problem continues, go to the school board about the problem teacher.