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Dear Abby: I’m two months pregnant with my second child. Our first child is a boy. My problem is my mother. She loves her grandson dearly, but she’s desperate for a granddaughter.

Recently, the subject of names came up. Although we have already decided on a name if the child is a boy, we had not discussed girls names at length.

When Mother asked me what the girl’s name would be, I said I had always liked “Melody.” My mother immediately started knitting an afghan with the name Melody on it.

A week later, my husband said that he thought we should decide on a name together. I tried to tell Mom that Melody might not be the name we choose. Her response was, “Well, my granddaughter will always be Melody to me.” What’s the best way to tell her we have decided on another name?

– What’s In A Name In Canada

Dear What’s: Tell her in plain English, and do it before the afghan has to be redone. If she insists on completing the blanket with the wrong name, accept it graciously and quietly donate it to charity.

A cancer revelation

Dear Abby: I was a busy wife, mother and grandmother who had always been active and involved in my church and community. When my beloved husband died three years ago, I became so consumed by grief, all my regular activities suddenly meant nothing to me.

Then something remarkable happened: I learned I have an incurable cancer. I was so scared and worried, I couldn’t eat or sleep. One of my sons took me to a world-famous cancer center. Everyone I met there radiated positive feelings. I felt surrounded by love – and it changed my outlook.

Abby, what do you think about my change in attitude? I don’t want to have cancer. But I am not afraid to die.

– Loving Every Day Without Fear

Dear Loving: What you have experienced could be called an epiphany – the simple and illuminating discovery that once you felt again surrounded by love, respect and security.