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Dear Abby: My sister, the mother of three boys, is now unable to take care of them. My family is asking me and my new husband to take them in.

To me it’s a no-brainer – something I’d do in a heartbeat. My husband refuses! He says that if we do, we’ll never have children of our own. I feel like I’m being forced to choose between my husband and my nephews. What would you do?

– Pulled In Two in Cincinnati

Dear Pulled In Two: I’d keep talking to my husband about it, and find out why he thinks that taking in your nephews would prevent you from having children of your own. As a newly married man, he may be feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of having three boys to raise and support – so he can’t imagine having another child with you. Do not let the subject rest until you have the answers to all of your questions. If the reasons are financial, perhaps he’d be more open to the idea if the rest of the family is willing to chip in. If that’s not the case, then you will have some serious choices to make.

Married to phone

Dear Abby: I have been with my wonderful wife for 35 years. Friends have said they wish they could have a relationship like ours, but an interloper has come between us, interfering with our ability to communicate.

Her cellphone has taken over her life. She’s constantly playing word games with 12 different friends, texting, etc. It starts first thing in the morning and lasts into the night. My wife and I used to sit together and have nice conversations. Now they are interrupted by weird noises when her phone announces she has another text. I took a friend on a fishing trip to Mexico, and his phone never left his palm. Is this my future?

– Missing Face Time in Arizona

Dear Missing: Yes, unless you are able to negotiate an agreed-upon period of time during which you are your wife’s first priority and her cellphone is turned off. As to your fishing buddy, either accept that he has a new toy, or cast around for someone who is less technology-addicted to join you next time.