Dear Abby: I have recently developed what I consider to be a very healthy lifestyle. I exercise, eat lots of fruits and vegetables and mostly whole foods. My problem is I think I may be becoming obsessed. It has become harder and harder to eat away from home.
I constantly plan what I’m going to eat next. I’m still happy, but too much of my time is being spent on this. Apparently, there’s a disorder similar to anorexia known as orthorexia. It’s the psychological obsession with eating healthy.
I don’t think I could be classified as an extreme case, but what should I do before I become one?
– Obsessed in Boston
Dear Obsessed: As with any obsessive disorder, the first step is realizing and admitting you may have one. Then discuss it with your physician and ask for a referral to a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders.
This is not to say that you have a disorder – but because more and more of your time is being devoted to thoughts of food, it would be a good idea to check. Too much of a good thing can be harmful if it is taken too far.
Abused wife wants out
Dear Abby: I am 23 and have one child. I have been married for three years, and my husband has recently become physically abusive. He was prosecuted for his actions and pleaded guilty, but he still blames me entirely for the scenario and refuses to accept any responsibility.
I fear for the safety of myself and my daughter every day, and I want to leave him for good.
Many of the shelters I have called require that I quit my job, which is something I feel is counterintuitive to establishing a life on my own, so I refuse.
That said, I don’t make much money, and the money I do make goes toward paying the fine my husband incurred for harming me.
Am I aiming too high? I feel the only way to break free from him entirely is to quit my job, but I don’t want to have to resort to this. What would you advise?
– Conflicted Out West
Dear Conflicted: I would advise you to take your child and get out of there before the next episode of domestic violence. And, if you truly want to break free entirely from your abuser, that you follow TO THE LETTER the instructions you receive from the people at the domestic violence shelter.
And one more thing: Let the person who incurred the fine pay it himself!
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