My Two Cents: Don’t change your dance plans
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Q: My best friend and I were planning on going to the upcoming school dance. Originally, neither of us had dates. Now a boy has asked me to go with him. I told my best friend, thinking she would be happy for me. Instead, she is angry, saying that she will have to skip the dance and it is “all my fault.”Was I wrong to accept a date? Should I change my plans for the sake of my friendship?
Sarah, junior, Williamsville
Tay: This is one of those moments when I greatly dislike clingy friends. It’s GREAT that you were asked out to the dance, especially if you like him back. Think for a minute about what you think your friend would do if she were in the same situation. If you ask her, she’ll probably say she would have denied the date, but how true do you think THAT is? However, know that YOU are NOT responsible for her happiness; you’re responsible for your OWN. Tell your friend that you’d really like to hang out with her at the dance and you’ll just have a date. If she still doesn’t want to go, just remember that her lack of happiness and clinginess is not your fault and enjoy yourself.
Mom: No and no! Unless you and your best friend agreed beforehand that you would both go dateless to the dance no matter what (including the possibility a boy may ask one of you out), go! Your friend may just be feeling a tinge of jealousy right now, which will likely pass. Or, it could also be that she’s a little reluctant to go “solo.” Either way, true friends support each other regardless of their current dating status. That doesn’t mean you have to change YOUR plans just because your best buddy is having a snit. She’s apt to change her mind as the dance draws near. If she does, be as gracious as you can and take the time to make her feel included.
My Two Cents is written by Taylor Watson, a senior at Lancaster High School, and her mother, Deb Skok Watson, a school counselor/ social worker at Hopevale School District. To get your questions answered, e-mailnext@buffnews.com .
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